Monday, June 9, 2014

A mockrey of rules

May be she saw me stare at her or may be my eyes told her the truth. She came and sat down near me and simply asked if I liked her. I told her that I indeed seem to like her from the way she acted with other people.

Her next question was the one that actually opened the floodgate. When she asked me if I knew her age. I told her in very strong words how i never looked for age, looks, caste, family or country in a person. I would also not be interested in anything in her past if it did not concern me. I was only interested to know her plans for the future. As that is the point of life that we would be looking at from this day. If I decided to spend large part of the rest of my life with her, I needed to know her what we would be doing together.

I would like to know the problems in her life and her desires. I was surprised to hear her reply even after getting a earful of advice. her reply was a simple statement that we lived in a society that cared. We may not think or care about our deeds or the repercussions of our decisions. Yet we judge the work of everyone else and critic others. We may do what we think is right, but the social judiciaries will still think it to be wrong.

I never met that girl again as we never shared any details. That discussion gave me the knowledge about the social notebook. It contained in its vast pages a rulebook on which every and all relations are analyzed. The rules which gave every person a set of constraints to live his life.People bound by these social norms are the ones that do not take decisions based on what is right. Their decisions are limited to their boundaries.

What we need to do is think beyond these rules. Look for qualities in people that have no set norms. Why is it that looks determine a lot about our choice. Having a fair complexion is important in a girlfriend as people will be more jealous of her. money is important for a boyfriend as it would give you a bigger status symbol. Even society has its own assumptions - A beautiful girl is first to be befriended or a man wearing formals is more corporate. The looks can be deceiving for a beautiful girl may be unfriendly or man in formals may be a con.